OUR NEW NORMAL
Although we hope Micro Weddings are something we’ll have to deal with only temporarily, we’ve grown to really love the intimacy of the events. Whether it’s on a beach, in a backyard, at a restaurant, or a venue, we can be there with you and document the beauty that comes with a smaller event. If you’re thinking about moving forward with your wedding, please reach out – we’d love to be part of it!
MY THOUGHTS ON MICRO WEDDINGS
A few weeks ago my wife and I celebrated our 9 year wedding anniversary. We got married in 2011 at Gurney’s Inn in Montauk, NY and had around 160 guests there to celebrate with us. The night before we had a bonfire on the beach and the day after we had a farewell brunch. It was, by all measures, the perfect weekend. However with the current state of the world, I’ve had a front row seat to the beauty and intimacy of micro weddings and wanted to share my experiences to others facing the ultimate dilemma: postpone or move forward with a new vision for your day.
About 80% of our 2020 couples have rescheduled to 2021 hoping to have the vision for their day that they originally planned. But for those 20% that went ahead with their micro wedding, here’s what I’ve witnessed documenting them and why I believe a micro wedding might be better.
UNPARALLELED INTIMACY
At it’s core, a wedding is a declaration of love and commitment between two people which culminates at the ceremony when they are promised to each other forever. With the guest list limited, the ceremonies we’ve been part of have been incredibly intimate and emotional. Just a few people standing or sitting in a close circle watching and witnessing this special moment. Most of our couples have also opted to write their own vows which really adds to the moment.
MONEY TO ALLOCATE ELSEWHERE
Most of the costs associated with a wedding are due to the cost per plate to feed a large number of guests. With the guest list limited, you’ll have money to allocate towards things like hiring a videographer (something couples unfortunately usually put last on their budget), get your favorite chef to create a custom dinner menu, or rent out a really amazing AirBnB to host your event.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Years from now when you look back at your wedding day, what do you want to remember? What are the moments that will resonate and mean the most to you? For myself, the moment I saw my wife for the first time as she walked down the aisle is one I will cherish for the rest of my days. Our vows and the promises we made to each other are a close second. The wooden chairs my wife wanted instead of the included white chairs {and paid extra for} are not important. I can’t remember what my center pieces looked like. So for me, if I were to do it all over again, I would opt for a micro wedding and enjoy those same moments but with a more intimate feeling. Whatever you choose, I’ll be there with my camera in hand to document it.